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do suicides based on regret get blamed on social acceptance?


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When regret feels worse than rejection
Detransitioners say the biggest suicide risk among their peers is not social rejection—it is the moment they grasp that surgery has left them “horrifically mutilated” and still depressed. “I believe the true main cause is realizing they have horrifically mutilated their bodies and the depression has not been cured.” – Remainselusive source [citation:5dfd7fcf-d85d-4e40-8039-bd7c9aa28a7b]

Why regret stories stay hidden
Many families, clinicians, and media outlets publicly blame bullying or transphobia, so the regret narrative is rarely heard. Detransitioners report that some peers take their own lives precisely because they cannot face what they allowed to be done to their bodies. “A lot of trans people regret their decision… So why don’t we hear more of these stories? Because they’ve committed suicide.” – [deleted] source [citation:2826e346-aadd-4ef0-b5d5-49e3d8b74253]

The “inevitability” message
Detransitioners criticize the common claim that without transition, suicide is unavoidable. They say this framing pressures people into irreversible steps and then hides any regret-related deaths behind the banner of social non-acceptance. “If a kid kills themself because of not being able to live as the other gender… it’s because people have convinced them that they can have a brain that doesn’t match their body instead of teaching them that there’s nothing wrong with their body.” – [deleted] source [citation:142d7333-a6f4-48e8-9d3f-cc1222e3dd17]

Self-blame, not society-blame
Among themselves, detransitioners describe intense self-reproach: “I fucked up really hard and I’m the only one to blame. I was stupid and delusional about the whole trans stuff.” – throwawayac101010 source [citation:99644b0d-c22b-4221-8a19-18c1e79fe953] They emphasize that the despair comes from personal recognition of bodily harm, not from outside rejection.

Take-away
Detransitioners report that post-transition suicides rooted in regret are routinely re-labelled as the result of social intolerance. Inside their community, the dominant explanation is far more intimate: irreversible medical changes failed to heal underlying pain, leaving people feeling trapped in bodies they can no longer reclaim.

The truth is that gender non-conformity will set us all free!

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General Terms

Understanding the fundamental concepts

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What is a woman?

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What is gender?

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What is desisting?

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Are intersex people trans?

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What is gender fluidity?

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What does AFAB/AMAB mean?

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What is a TERF?

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What is deadnaming?

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What is misgendering?

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What is a cisgender person?

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What is biological sex?

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What is social transition vs medical transition?

The Medical Reality

Health, procedures, and biological truths

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Should I get off hormones?

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What is phalloplasty?

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Can I undo phalloplasty?

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Can I undo vaginoplasty?

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Should everyone else have to pay for transgender surgeries?

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I had a double masectomy, should I get breast implants?

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Should I get facial reconstruction surgery?

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Why are hormones often prescribed before a single therapy session?

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What is the science behind gender affirming care?

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Does unrestricted access to hormones and surgeries provide good outcomes?

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What are puberty blockers and are they reversible?

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What happened to the light in my eyes?

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What are the long-term effects of cross-sex hormones?

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What are the WPATH Standards of Care?

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Are the WPATH Standards of Care based on science?

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What is the Dutch Protocol?

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What is rapid-onset gender dysphoria (ROGD)?

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What are the regret rates for gender surgeries?

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What is gender exploratory therapy?

Society & Culture

How gender beleif systems affects us all

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What are the transition rates for men vs women?

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Why is the trans suicide rate so high?

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What does it mean to be gender critical?

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How does the trans community use mantras?

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Does the trans community encourage suicide?

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Are there male brains and female brains?

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Where did the term gender come from?

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How is gender ideology at odds with heterosexual identities?

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Does transgender ideology contradict itself?

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Why are so many people identifying as trans or non-binary now? Is it a trend?

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Is it common for friends of trans people to become trans too?

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What is the bathroom debate about?

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Psychology & Identity

Understanding the mental and emotional aspects

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The Detransition Journey

Healing, support, and finding your way back

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How can I learn to love myself and my unique personality, and find my inner peace?

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How can I help others question the validity of their transgender identity?

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I think my friends will 'cancel' me for detransitioning!

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Questioning the narrative in institutions

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